We all have a million and one other obligations - kids, parents, work, binge-watching Netflix - and they often interfere with our sex lives. Once you discover your kinks – and the fun you can have with them - sometimes you crave a little carnal fun. More sex, please! But real life sometimes seems intent on stopping your kinky fun.What can you do ab...

Think you know a lot about sex? Maybe you're right, but there's always more to learn! Here are 110 sex facts you may not know.According to a survey of adults aged 20 to 59, women have an average of four sex partners during their lifetime; men have an average of seven. Source: National Center for Health StatisticsAccording to sex researchers William...

To most "squares," the idea of a swingers party elicits visions of a cramped room full of writhing, sweat-soaked bodies; people uninhibited by "traditional" sexual protocols. But, in reality, a sex party is a finely orchestrated get-together that not only requires a good bit of planning, but quite a few rules too. When you're dealing with a large g...

In 2010, Mira Bellwether wrote "Fucking Trans Women," the first piece of its kind that outlined the sex lives of trans women as an educational and instructional piece of text. In the zine, Bellwether discusses "muffing," a term that describes the act of pushing the testicle back inside of a male-bodied person's inguinal canal or penetrating the ing...

SWINGING THROUGH THE HOLIDAYS!Posted in We Gotta Thought by This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. As we begin to celebrate our third holiday season in the Lifestyle we're seeing things with a new perspective. Here are just a few things we've noticed:1.The third helping of turkey is like the third orgasm at a swinger party- both times you swore you wer...

By: Katy Thorn February 1, 2018  The United States sure had some crazy laws regarding sex, but what about their neighbors to the North? With a reputation for being polite and friendly, we were pleasantly surprised to find out their attitudes, laws, and habits are pretty relaxed. Erm, quite relaxed! 1. Using Your Mouth for More than S...

I had to come to terms with what I thought was "proper behavior."  What does a traditionally raised Midwest girl have in common with a swinger? More than you would think... a lot more. My introduction to the swinging lifestyle began several years ago after my second divorce. I was slowly coming to terms with being single after decades of marri...

No whips and chains ... just a little light kink.Sexy bedroom "spank and tickle" play is even more fun when you're in these kinky sex positions.1. Up against a wall.This one is a classic and you don't have to do the whole hoisted-in-the-air thing to make it hot.Simply being pushed up against the wall and keeping both feet on the ground can have a p...

Get down and dirty in a totally new way. Keeping your relationship fun and exciting is crucial if you want something everlasting. It's not just important for making sure that your man stays attracted, but also for making sure that you, yourself, don't get bored!So that's why I want to give you these 33 dirty questions to ask a guy when you want to ...

What Is Swinging? A Guide to Being In 'The Lifestyle From swapping to sex parties, here are the basics on this form of consensual non-monogamy. By Maressa Brown  From experimenting with different sex positions to bringing accessories into the bedroom, there are a plethora of steamy ways to take your sex life to the next level. But more and mor...

There's a lot to learn about yourself when you take your clothes off. by Kaitlin Menza​ ​When I tell people I'm going to a naked resort in Jamaica, they respond as though I've just revealed my salary or the details of my last menstruation. It's a long blink or a visible shift backward in their seat. Several ask, after a pause, "Are you a naked pers...

The American Psychological Association has created a task force on what it calls "consensual non-monogamy".    In the 1960s, the popular saying was, "If it feels good, do it." Now the American Psychological Association has created a task force on what it calls "Consensual Non-Monogamy" to encourage people to do just that. And do it with n...

By RYAN OWENS, BRANDON BAUR AND LAUREN EFFRON  Sep 25, 2014, 5:40 PM ET Book 2019 Naughty in Nawlins These Couples Say Swinging Makes Their Marriage Stronger As the saying goes in New Orleans, let the good times roll. And at no time is that mantra on display more than during the Naughty in N'Awlins, an annual swingers convention. Roughly ...

 When you think of swinging, the first thing that comes to your mind is a bunch of old people wearing robes at an adults-only resort, drinking and messing around. Though we've been led to believe that, in reality, it's not true. Real swingers not only come in all different shapes, sizes, and age groups, but their get-togethers are highly organ...

I wanted to find out what it is about swinging that keeps happily married women in the lifestyle."I kissed a girl and I liked it..". so go the lyrics of Katy Perry's classic song. And apparently, she's not the only one. Some married women like it, too — a lot. It's what piqued their interest in "the lifestyle" and locked them in for life. The same ...

By Mark Hay | Jul 26 2018Advice from pros on how to avoid being a One Minute Man.  Thanks to cheap sitcom jokes, the marathon power poundings of porn, and a host of other cultural and societal pressures, many men worry about not lasting long enough in bed. Lasting as long as Kanye West, they learn, is a perquisite for good sex and self-re...

By: Donna Turner January 15, 2019*Phew*What a ride that was. 2018 was a difficult year for sex and frankly, we're glad to see the back of it. If 2017 was the beginning of a tectonic shift in the landscape of sexuality, then in 2018 it became a landslide, with a slew of new and increasingly devastating sexual assault allegations and the uprising of ...

By: Katy Thorn January 18, 2019  Picture this – it's the middle of winter, and while you've got no shortage of ideas when it comes to keeping things in the bedroom hot while the weather is cold, you have a specific appetite that can't be satisfied by cuddles or shared showers… Well pull out your latex and grab your most GGG (good, gi...

By: Lea Marsden January 11, 2019  There are many reasons why you might want to get it on while everyone else is getting down at a house party: maybe you and your partner have had crazy busy schedules and this is literally the only night off for the whole week, maybe you and your crush are really hitting off, or heck, you're hitting i...

​A poly-amorous trait useful for anyone who struggles with jealousy.​ By: Elisabeth A. Sheff Ph.D., CASA, CSEThe Polyamorists Next Door Oct 07, 2018 People in polyamorous relationships seek out the kinds of situations that tend to make people jealous. For most people, the thought of watching their beloved flirting, snuggling, smooching, o...